It's me, hi, I'm the problem, it's me!

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 And I'm totally not writing this blog 6 months after the song was released!

Hi everyone and welcome back!

Happy 150TH POST!!!

Truth be said, I was extremely scared to release this post because I wasn't sure how the Swifties out there would take it (but dw I got it approved so we're good to go!)

If you haven't heard the phrase It's me, hi, I'm the problem, it's me!, congratulations, you're a boomer (just kidding!)
This line is from Taylor Swift's song, Anti Hero; part of her most recent album, Midnights. It took the world by storm on its release and made it to every reel possible on Instagram and Tiktok.

However, I realised I personally haven't come across a blog with this title, so I thought - why not be the first?

Accha okay enough introduction, let's jump into the post :)

Have you ever felt blah?
Just..not in your element?
And raise your hand if you've blamed yourself for feeling that way.

I can't ever retain friends; they all detach after a while.
I'm too much of a perfectionist so I can't ever get the job done.
I always get broken up with - maybe there's something fundamentally wrong with me.

If the bolded part ever crossed your mind, you can probably relate to the lyric.

This blog post is to reassure you just one thing: You're not.

There is nothing 'inherently wrong' with you.
It's probably your dysfunctional way of thinking (cognitive pov), your past experiences that shape your behaviour(behaviourists pov), or maybe you're just with the wrong group(socialists pov).

To elaborate on the socialistic side a little more, sometimes when you place yourself in the wrong environment, people may suck out a lot of important qualities you possess. This makes you feel drained leaving you with empty and bad thoughts about yourself.

If I could give my early teenage self some advice, it would be this:

Sometimes friends walk away from your life - it's okay. 
Yes, if they're close you should try to speak to them once and get their opinion, but if it doesn't patch itself up, it doesn't patch itself up. It's for the best - you both won't waste more time on each other. Cherish that you made a few memories and get yourself closure. 
Don't push others away just because you drifted from one person. You're going to make some long-lasting relationships and just trust yourself on it.
And this applies to contexts outside of friendships too - you'll understand with age.

On the flip side, sometimes you may be doing the pushing away/toxic part.
To this, the only advice I would give is, look at yourself and ask:
Do YOU think you're maintaining the relationships in your life correctly?

    Aaj ka blog post kuch jyada hi lamba ho gaya :)
Anywhoo, I hope you enjoyed reading this post and found it relatable.
Please share and follow for more!

Signing off,
Kuhu :)

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