Damselz-In-Sanity

"Ugh I can't solve this right now, I'll do this as homework." The homework: Stuck to the computer, Eye power going up, “Come outside for dinner” 2 minutes hours - Let me just finish this mock-up! Decoding at two in the morning, With a cup of coffee at the side , How did I fall in love with the subject? Okay, I tried! System.out.println(); Or print(‘I’m gonna win’); The inevitable battle between Java and Python, It’s 3am. Why am I hearing a violin? Gah! This code is killing me, I’m just gonna go sleep now. Binary code and The Matrix in my mind, The answer came up in my dream somehow? Hopped on to the computer, Single handedly making the coffee industry a billionaire, Ladies and Gentlemen, she’s solved the code! It’s time to get out of your sleepwear. From “Hello World”, To a 10th grade ‘Tech'- Tac Toe, A 3 line code, Became a kilo. Can’t wait to study this in the future, Probably going to get a lot worse, But Hey! It pays off at the end It makes your brain a lot m

 Hello everyone and welcome back! Rejection. Hmm. No matter the context, we've all faced this at some point. And regardless to say, it's often led us to spiral into a slump and ultimately give up. Personally, I've been through the same (multiple times), but only my most recent one proved to be otherwise.  The reason: Keep reading! I promise to try my best to keep this post from sounding like a Ted - Talk but nevertheless, I wanted to share with y'all in today's post: Why it's good to face rejection at times. Frankly, getting rejected made me  realise that the rejection was simply an opportunity to do Better and Bigger. It helps you perceive a situation from a new point of view: One which is opposite to the approach you had initially. It's a method of getting (maybe not so impressive) feedback on yourself but giving you the opportunity to better yourself and stand structured criticism. Another important point to note is that it reminds you that you are a huma

  Hello everyone and welcome back! This is perhaps one of the most common terms we've come across at every stage of our lives - most of us are well acquainted with what it is too. But just for a quick recap, Peer pressure is the kind of social obligation you're bound to perform to fit into a particular group. It may not necessarily be negative at all times, however, when used in context does mostly refer to the same. I'll be discussing about the same in this post so without further ado, let's get to it! I'm sure all of us at some point have had the 'peer pressure talk' with our parents.  We've been warned against drinking before the legal age and smoking cigarettes (at any age) or doing any sort of illegal activities even if a lot of our friends or known people our age do. The fact still lies that most people around the age of 11-13 have a tendency to disobey their parents and just assume whatever their peers are endorsing in as more valuable. T his is o

 Hey everyone and welcome backzo! Most of us, if not all, have probably experienced some sort of 'misfit' in school. Some of us may have tried changing ourselves in our sense of style, our way of speaking, or even our whole personality all together just to 'fit in'. I've been through it too, and after long time, realized and overcame it; which is why I wanted to share with you all why it's 100% okay to be you. Just the way you are. Without further ado, lets get to it! As spoken in  my earlier post, my present personality can best be encapsulated in the term ' Ambivert ' And the reason why I find this as my comfort term is because it let's me be me, and explore me. (wow I sound like some 23 year old sheesh) Up to freshmen year, I used to be pretty introverted and didn't have anything 'unique' to me. But after online school began, I started writing blogs and something changed. I had something unique to me. I wrote. As I kept writing, I kept

 Hi everyone and welcome back! Today's post is based on a Ted Talk I recently watched and wanted to share with you all :) We've often heard the repercussions of 'Stress' - especially the negative impacts has on your body.  However, a recent study has concluded that stress is only bad if you take it in a bad way. People who consider stress to be the devil are often more prone to stress related conditions than people who make it their friend. When you view your stress response as helpful, you indirectly create a biology of courage.  Too little stress can make you unproductive and too much can make you extremely anxious and lead to various repercussions. You can't control the situation, but you can control your reaction to it, and that is by making it your friend.  Now the next question that may arise would be, How do I make Stress my friend? Well to answer that, I would recommend you watch the ted talk I was inspired by: Here!   Instead of viewing stress as something

(We've all probably seen this image on social media) Hello everyone and welcome back!     A lot of times we feel as if we are over a particular incident or a person. However, sometimes we are greeted with the reoccurrence of the same feeling. Sometimes a little milder, or sometimes worse - most of us aren't able to recognize and combat this and end up spiraling.  I've had it, you have probably too, and chances are, everyone out there has or will. It's natural and human but our minds make us believe its not.   In today's post I'll be getting into Setbacks  and discuss why it can helpful to us and how to work through them. Note: I won't be getting into it from a serious disorder perspective rather one which we all feel at regular intervals as I'm not a professional!  Without further ado, let's get to it! Setbacks: A step back. When we go through one, we hate it. "Why me?", right? We may blame ourselves, be angry at ourselves. How did I let th

Hello everyone! Welcome back <3 We celebrated World Mental Health last week, on 10th of October.  Last week, I was also presented the opportunity to attend a ' Mental Health Fest'; by the students - for the students *History textbook flashback*. The event focussed on conveying various ideas on Mental Health using creativity as a medium such as music, dance, film making, street plays and more. Attending this amazing event sparked an inspiration in me to author a post on why we should encourage Mental Health Activities around us. Without further ado, let's get to it! Mental Health is a highly stigmatised topic all over the world. Therefore, promoting the idea of speaking up about it, through various expressions of creativity not only instills innovation but also helps the youth become more vocal on world issues. Nearly every person has had some experience with Mental health; it may not necessarily be a grave situation, but we've all had our ups and downs with it.  Men

 Hello everyone! Welcome back to month 26 of #faltufriday! For most of you who don't know me, I am a 'Probashi Bengali', which literally means a Bengali living outside of Bengal in India. I grew up spending my initial years all over the world and finally settled down in India when I turned four. Over the years of growing up, I've experienced a lot of enjoyable moments and had various instances a lot of my fellow probashi Bengali's might relate to, so I figured I'd share a few with you guys :) Without further ado, let's get to a non-stereotypical life of a probashi!  Firstly, Boroline. Boroline is Bengali Bae. Go anywhere in the world, ask any Bengali for a boroline, you can count on them to have one in their bag. Always. Bengali's are not always about 'laal shaada'(Red and White) saari's, they're also about 'laal checked' gamchas(Towel). You will 100% find this in every probashi Bengali household. The endless struggle of choosing

 Hi everyone and welcome back! If you have been following me since the beginning of my journey, you may have noticed that I have thrown limelight procrastination by basing a few posts on them. Today's post is yet another super demanded post, however, is only slightly linked to 'teenage mental health' - the niche of my blog. Nevertheless, hope y'all enjoy reading it and without further ado, let's get to it! Procrastinators can broadly be classified under 3 groups. If you google them the results look something like this: 1. The Perfectionist These are the type of people who tend to spend so much time thinking over their task or solving one minute issue that they end up wasting the entire time dedicated to the task. They ideally procrastinate when they are overwhelmed with the fear of producing work of a low standard, or fear of failing, and in a few cases victims of OCD. 2. The Avoider Or whom I like to call, the 'ho jayega' one's. These constitute the peo

 Hey everyone! Welcome back!! In all honesty, I was not well acquainted with the term "Mental Health Days" until I saw it in a TV show . This led me to thinking if something like this actually exists, and if so, how can it benefit us? So, I did my research, started implementing it in my personal life and wanted to share with you the importance of the same :) Without further ado, let's get to it! Starting off with the obvious, What is a "Mental Health Day" If your first thought was something related to taking a break, you would be correct. A Mental Health Day is one where you absolutely cut off from your rat race life and take a step back to rejuvenate yourself. It’s a day to relax, decompress and take care of yourself overall. For example, if you've just finished with your exams and sacrificed on your sleep schedule a lot, its regaining that. If you've burnt yourself out with various stressors, its taking a pause from it.  It's taking time out to rel

(Another B99 reference!)  Hey everyone and welcome back! Today's post is quite personal because this is something that I went through recently and I know a lot of my peers did too.  The underlying fact however is, none of us want to admit it. For most of you who don't know, I recently passed 10th grade a couple of months ago and I am just a few weeks into Grade 11. I spoke about my experience in 10th grade:   H ere but I wanted to talk about what happens after 10th grade.  In simple words, A slump. (Keep in mind, I'm authoring this post just 2 months into 11th grade)  I recently hit a slump (probably still in it haha) which led me to think, why not talk about it? Most people are going through one? The fact is that, at least in an Indian education system, people put a lot of pressure on 10th Grade - and that pressure is valid. 10th is super important for life and you need to work hard this year.  What most people discard is that we burn ourselves out SO much that we start

Metacognition is the process of thinking about your thoughts.  You're doing it. You just don't know it. This technique is usually promoted by professionals to deal with some mental health issues and also by several teachers in the classroom. In simpler words, it is like a big brain watching and analyzing your own brain. In today's post I won't be focusing on the technical aspect of it rather, I'll be discussing more about how we can incorporate into our lives and it's benefits.  Without further ado, Let's get to it!  A person has about 6000+ thoughts on an average daily. We as humans have a natural tendency to do 2 things: Overthink most of our decisions or blissfully ignore them. Metacognition falls into the former part and can also be coined as 'healthy overthinking'. It involves one’s thinking process leading to better study techniques, memory processing, and the ability to self-monitor one’s learning process. You become the person who self-questi

 Hello everybody!  Welcome back!! Now anyone who knows me personally would describe me some what as a 'professional overthinker'. Partly due to my anxiety, partly due to my extremely cautious mind, and partly due to self doubt , I have always tried my best to stay one step ahead, which may or may not have led to excessive amounts of overthinking eep :p Except, I know I'm not the only one who goes through this🤷🏻‍♀️ Let's admit it, we have all spent a significant amount of time pondering over embarrassing moments, reliving conversations in your head and thinking about all the things you wish you had or had not said.  A very recent case of mine: I was supposed to send the working of a numerical to my pedagogue. I initially approached it by dividing it by a thousand then overthought and decided to cut it off and leave it as is. When he told me it was incorrect, the queen of silly mistakes noticed that they had added incorrectly :)  That wasn't just it. The final answ

 I can't remember a time before I discovered the wonders of spy thrillers and murder mysteries. Ever since my childhood, I have always had a fantasy for crime fiction and detective stories. Be it the brilliant writings of Carolyn Keene in “The Nancy Drew” series, or the amazing direction of Dan Goor in “Brooklyn Nine-Nine”, solving puzzles has always fascinated me. The Brooklyn Nine-Nine episode titled “The Bank Job” is my favourite from the show. It was filled with various instances of thrill and suspense and the ending was absolutely shocking leaving me wanting more. As a person who enjoys problem-solving, this genre has resonated with me. The reason why I love reading as well as watching shows from this category is that it always keeps me on the edge of my seat. Twists and turns, clandestine subplots and innumerable possibilities, all to add up against the one person you suspect the least. The enthralling escapade of reading about one’s imagination and how they bring it to life

 Heylo everybody! Welcome back <3 I had dedicated all the posts in the November, 2021 to Eating Disorders. I'm glad to share that we had an extremely successful event that month which brought in a great new number of readers as well.  One peculiar observation I had made was that despite throwing limelight on such topics, there was still a bit of confusion in the air about what classifies as 'normal behaviour' and when it starts extending into a disorder. Note: I'm not trying to diagnose you here considering I'm not a professional and don't have the authority to do so. This post will mainly be focussing on a few differences between an Eating Disorder and regular hunger pangs.  Anyone who has met me in real life would describe me as an absolute foodie(something I'd say is hereditary in me :P). I love experimenting with new styles and dishes, be it street food or at a classy restaurant Anyway, I've also had my share of stress eating before important even

 Hi and welcome back <3 Today's post is based on something that is not so uncommon among us. Bottling up your emotions. Everyone has undergone it sometime and well, it's had its own share of repercussions. In today's post I'll be covering the impacts of the same, since most of are familiar with the concept. Without further ado, let's get to it! Emotions are feelings that need to be expressed. Be it happiness or sorrow, sharing it with your world affects how you perceive the situation. But, if you start hiding them within yourself and not disclosing it to others, chances are they will boil over and show themselves later, with worse consequences.  The main reason why we as humans are more prone to the same is because we fear facing them-head on. If we bottle things up, they don't just go away. Emotions will stay down until we physically can't contain them anymore, then they'll burst out fiercer than before. And more often than not, these come out in a f

Palms sweaty. Throat scratchy. Feet shivering.  Hello and welcome back to a fresh new month <3     We're all familiar with the term 'Stage Fright' or 'Performance Anxiety' right?  The irrational fear or anxiety when performing before an audience. A lot of us may have also experienced this at some point. I've been a avid dancer ever since I was a kid but that doesn't doesn't imply that I've haven't been a victim to the same.  It happened to me at a really young age however, I developed methods to overcome the same, which I'll be discussing towards the end of this post. Keep in mind, today's post is going to be based on a little more general perspective that we all have undergone at some point and not the disorder. (Do let me know in the comments if you would like me to base a post on the same) Let's first understand,  Why does it occur? Self consciousness, low self esteem, and many more factors. If y'all have watched the new mov

 Hello everyone and welcome back to month 22 of #faltufriday!! For people who are new here, I recently gave my term 2 of my 10th grade ICSE boards which FINALLY marked the end of an incredibly cosmic roller coaster ride. The past 15 academic months have been absolutely crazy - dealing with online studies and keeping up with the '10th grade pressure', so I thought, why not share my journey now that I'm finally over with them! I'm a science student so my boards ended on the 19th of May, 2022. However, I started preparations for the same, back in March-end, 2021. 15 dreadful yet the most memorable month's of my entire academic journey. About a week after my 9th grade exams had ended was when 10th grade commenced for me. Both school and tuition began and the end goal of 10th Grade was set. The first couple of weeks did seem a bit overwhelming considering the huge pressure and importance that is given to this aspect of your life, however, I dealt with the same soon. One