Damselz-In-Sanity

 Hello everyone and welcome back! A lot of us may not be familiar with the term ' Bereavement', and truth be said, I wasn't too until recently.  This was something I came across on social media and thought of sharing with you all because I realized this is something that takes place through all stages of life, and the earlier you know it, the better. So, without further ado, let's get to it! Starting off with the obvious,  What is Bereavement? In simple terms, it is the  period of grief and mourning after a death or a loss occurs. Grieving is a normal reaction to loss. One may experience it as an emotional reaction which could be either physical or mental. Sometimes, mental reactions can include anger, guilt, anxiety, sadness and despair. Emotions can be overwhelming after dealing with the loss-not necessarily death. It could be anything that you truly cared about; a job, relationship or change in a person's health.  This  phenomenon is coined as 'Bere...

 Hey everyone! Welcome back <3 This post is actually inspired from something I saw both online and in real life, and it irked me quite a lot. "Bro, Depression Ho Gaya"   like the tittle says, is something I heard in school. The context being: They didn't do so well in an exam or just think it's funny/relatable.  My main aim in this post is to focus rather on why we should stop just throwing these words around rather than just being an "overreactive advocate" (Yes, people have actually said that to me.) Without further ado, let's get to it.  The Stigma. There's a HUGE stigma surrounding Mental Health globally. People are afraid to open up because of this surrounding layer of apparent shame.  When people use such terms and sentences, they unknowingly add more to the very stigma.  It makes the victim believe as if what they are going through "isn't a big deal" and further burdens them from not opening up about it. Their fears are underm...

 Welcome back everybody! If you're a gen-z or a millennial, chances are you are probably well acquainted with the idea of mental health. In today's post, I'll be tackling the idea of why it is so stigmatized and why it is equally as important as your physical health. Without further ado, Let's get to it! Growing up as a kid, third grade me was exposed to the term 'mental' as a swear to describe someone as a lunatic.  "Bro you belong in a mental hospital" was a line that came up in nearly every conversation- and still does to this date. This was just my first expose to the stigmatized world of Mental Health. Teasing someone and bullying them by using this phrase contributed to the idea in our brains that being out of line=crazy=mental disorder. We had a picture drew up in mind about someone in white overalls, open uncombed hair and walking with small steps with their neck bent sideways- most movies promote the idea in the same way. The exposure to all...

 Hello and welcome back everyone! HAPPY 100TH POST!! A lot of us may have come across the term "Therapist Friend" of a group. The stereotypical description of the same would look something like this: The quiet, calm, cool and collected one with the best advise whom anyone can approach for the minutest of inconveniences. A good listener is the basic trait possessed by them.  However, the fact still lies that most people misuse the term 'Therapist Friend.' A few months ago, I had authored a post titled ' Facebook Therapy Memes ' which led to this topic.      It was also suggested by a reader of my blogs and I found it to be extremely insightful considering it's high misuse, so I decided to throw a bit of limelight on the same. Without further ado, let's get to it. The phrase 'Therapist Friend', I believe, is a wrong term.  This is simply just my opinion but let me justify why. There is a significant mixing up of the term 'Friend' and a ...

 Hello everybody!  Welcome back!! Now anyone who knows me personally would describe me some what as a 'professional overthinker'. Partly due to my anxiety, partly due to my extremely cautious mind, and partly due to self doubt , I have always tried my best to stay one step ahead, which may or may not have led to excessive amounts of overthinking eep :p Except, I know I'm not the only one who goes through this🤷🏻‍♀️ Let's admit it, we have all spent a significant amount of time pondering over embarrassing moments, reliving conversations in your head and thinking about all the things you wish you had or had not said.  A very recent case of mine: I was supposed to send the working of a numerical to my pedagogue. I initially approached it by dividing it by a thousand then overthought and decided to cut it off and leave it as is. When he told me it was incorrect, the queen of silly mistakes noticed that they had added incorrectly :)  That wasn't just it. The final ...

 Hi and welcome back <3 Today's post is based on something that is not so uncommon among us. Bottling up your emotions. Everyone has undergone it sometime and well, it's had its own share of repercussions. In today's post I'll be covering the impacts of the same, since most of are familiar with the concept. Without further ado, let's get to it! Emotions are feelings that need to be expressed. Be it happiness or sorrow, sharing it with your world affects how you perceive the situation. But, if you start hiding them within yourself and not disclosing it to others, chances are they will boil over and show themselves later, with worse consequences.  The main reason why we as humans are more prone to the same is because we fear facing them-head on. If we bottle things up, they don't just go away. Emotions will stay down until we physically can't contain them anymore, then they'll burst out fiercer than before. And more often than not, these come out in a f...

 Hi everyone! Welcome back!! Aaj ka post is based on something which we've all been through and unknowingly got out of.   Trivia question: Which creature can survive in any condition? Answer : Cockroaches.  (and tardigrades too, but let's go with a more common example) They are considered to be one of the hardest groups of creatures. It is an incredibly adaptive insect, having adjusted to the changes of the earth and its inhabitants for these hundreds of millions of years. "So, how is that connected to Mental Health? Isn't that simply biology?" is perhaps what you might be thinking right now.  Let me answer your question :) As humans, adapting to a particular situation is a frequent struggle. Life constantly throws lemons and more often than not, we're not able to make lemonade out of it.  It can be any circumstance- class shuffles, shifting or even losing someone. It's a hard grapple to overcome to the situation quick if you don't have great adaptabil...

 Hi everyone! Welcome backk!! Today's post is one on which I've been meaning to write on for a really long time and finally got the opportunity to.    Social Media Is Bad For Your Mental Health Perhaps something which we have all heard at some time but blissfully chosen to ignore (I did too eep :p) Until recently, when I deactivated most of my social media due to my exams did I realise the harmful impacts of social media in our lives.  I cannot comprehend into words how relieved I felt those 4 weeks I was away from the media.  Most of us don't understand something until we actually go through it. The amount of FOMO and drama that it feeds you with is unimaginable.  Social Media    fuels the need to present yourself in a particular manner, follow a particular regime, and overall be this " perfect person ". It takes a terrible toll on your mental health, often leading to various repercussions. A few of which include: HORRIBLE amounts of anxiousness...

       Heyyo everyone! With the immense amount of love and success on my previous post , a lot of y'all wanted a part II so here we are :)) Aaj ka post is a myth buster where we tackle a few common misconceptions about ADHD. Without further ado, let's get it to it! Starting off, No. Though sugar intake, watching too much TV, and a chaotic family life can worsen symptoms of ADHD, research shows that they cannot actually cause the condition and be the root of it. It's universally known that high consumption of sugar makes one jittery, but it doesn't mean it leads to a mental disorder. So, throw the idea out of the window that ADHD is caused due to the above. Again, absolutely not . The disorder can also affect teens as well as get carried onto adulthood. ADHD in teens and adults is almost always accompanied by other mental illnesses such as tw: depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder. However, very very few people with the condition seek treatment. Nuh uh. No mental ...

 Hey everyone! Welcome back<3 Today's post is based on an EXTENSIVELY researched one which I've been working on since last year.  Several Instagram questionnaires, talking with professionals to even my own experience around these.    Super hard decision to narrow these down to just top 5, but hey, gonna do a part two soon if y'all want it :) All of us have had various misconceptions about different topics and many of its branches such as Anxiety, OCD , Bipolar Disorder, Depression, etc. This post is not gonna cover any particular topic in depth rather the ones we hear in all of our day to day lives, with regards to "Mental Health". Without further ado, let's get to it! We can all agree that we HAVE heard this at least once in our lives. I guarantee you have. It's time we bust this myth hmm? MENTAL DISORDERS AND GOING TO THERAPY DOES NOT MAKE YOU WEAK. Let's have that cleared out. This is no more true than saying that a broken leg is a sign of weakne...

 Hey everyone! Welcome back to a fresh new year <<3 With the immense amount of love and success my previous post based on the LGBTQ+ Community received, a lot(I mean, A LOT) of y'all wanted me to cover another post on this topic! Which brings us here :) In today's post I'll be writing about various thoughts a person might experience when coming out, how it negatively impacts their mental health, as well as ways one can support their friends from this community. P.S: Everyone has different experiences so I spoke to different people from the coterie and I tried my best to make it common to all teens :) Without further ado, let's get to it! Coming Out of the Closet It can be quite a tough process for a lot of people and is often coupled with a gazillion overpowering thoughts.  1. Self esteem takes a hit Years spent in the closet can make the prospect of revealing oneself an emotionally charged experience. However, the process is not just about revealing oneself to o...

 Hey everyone! Welcome back :) Today's post is based on something that has become more prevalent than ever nowadays and also one which was HIGHLY requested by you guys!(Thank you so much<3) The pressure to be perfect   - it can be loosely translated into "The Clout of Judgement "  . I think all of us can agree the insistence of having everything "perfect" has significantly increased over the past few years, especially among teenagers. A lot of us have even been through this(guilty :P) Starting off, The 3 P's. Padhai, Popularity and the Perfect Body. 100% in studies and extracurriculars, the biggest and most happening social life ever coupled with having the most ideal body according to society. More often than not, not having even one of them makes one believe that they aren't "good enough" and makes a person susceptible to the fear of judgement. Little is it known that nearly everyone goes through this. The pressure to be a certain way, not...

Eating Disorders have often been misperceived which has led to multiple repercussions.  They have been ignored, as well as, misdiagnosed . However, a factor common to both is that it has become a "trend" to have some sort of a disorder-now in the limelight- Eating Disorders . Not only is this wrong, but the reason people endorse in this is because they are unaware of what it actually is. This fad is not good and has to be brought to a full stop; No Mental Disorders are something to be joked about. That being said, to prevent further misconception about this topic, let's clear out What exactly is an "Eating Disorder"? In simple words, it is a serious mental illness, characterised by eating, exercise and body weight or shape becoming an unhealthy lifestyle of someone's life.  One tries using food to manage their feelings. They tend to have an baleful relationship with food. This may be eating too much or too little food. Maybe eating a lot of food in one sitti...

Hey everyone, Welcome back! Should we incorporate journaling into our daily lives? This was a question I had asked myself when I had initially started journaling . I'm sure we are all familiar with the term 'journaling'. We may have even tried it out for a while but failed to keep up with it after a couple of days(I did too). For me the main reason was that I tried doing this daily and made it a "task" rather than an easing mechanism. About a year after giving up on journaling I finally decided to take it up again to help with my anxiety. To my surprise-IT WORKS! Penning down your thoughts helps. So, I thought why not share it's importance in our lives through a post :) When we think of the term journaling the first thought or rather picture that comes to our minds look something like this or something that you saw above:  Something really aesthetic and good looking which makes it perfect for an Instagram post. Loads of colours, highlighters, pictures and wha...

 Heyyo!  Welcome back! This is a topic I had originally written as a draft for my first post. At that time, it seemed as a very dull and click nahi karne vala topic so I decided not to publish it. Nearly a year later, I was going through my older posts and realised that this is actually a pretty misperceived topic. After witnessing such an event take place right in front of my eyes, I thought, why not write a new version on this topic? So, here we are :) I'm gonna try my best to not make this a typical "cliché" post where I just give solutions on how to "stop" it-nope. Both of us know it's not gonna be of much use🤷🏻‍♀️ Without further ado, lets get to it! A lot of us feel that bullying has reduced over the past few years and only exists among young kids. I actually disagree with this. With several factors being considered, the cases of bullying has actually increased-and not just among kids-rather among teens too.  People feel that it is non-existent for 2...

 Hey everyone! Welcome back!! The Self Esteem of Teens Is it better than what it was 30 years ago? Or is it much much worse?  Self-Esteem is a very crucial matter that is extremely important, especially at this age.  Many teens, their teachers, their parents, and others suppose that during teenage, one's mental health is likely to decline. Adolescence may be described as a time of increasingly heightened self-scrutiny and significantly fluctuating self-esteem. But the solution isn't always completely clear, as self-esteem is a subjective state, and consequently very difficult to measure.  Self-esteem refers to how much a person likes (esteems) themselves.  Adolescents have various stages of self-esteem, which appears to be influenced by factors such as as gender, ethnicity, and social class. It also can range within an individual - every teen may also have different stages of self-esteem in different domains such as social, scholastics, athletics, appearance, an...

So I've genuinely lost the number of times I've witnessed this in front of my eyes. It's not something that's been recently started; its been there for long.  And the fact that it's still there- even after everything going on in the world- its just wOw. I mean like what do you get from it? Why do you wanna demean another person for their appearance? Like what happiness does it get you by criticizing another person on the basis of how they look?! What it doesn't match the level of  society's 'perfect body'? "God! They're  so fat. What a pig" or "They're so skinny man. Such a stick."  I've heard these comments no kidding-  Hence, I've decided to play my part in spreading awareness on how to avoid making such comments and why it's hurtful. First to answer the main question- What is Body Shaming? We know the basic definition; commenting something on a persons body in a negative view.  It is indeed another type of b...