This Valentines...

Hello hello and welcome back to today's blogzo! 

So...it's Valentine's today.
Some of us are single, some of us are dating; some of us have it "complicated" and some of us are married (hopefully no one from this blog's target demographic!)

Truth be said, I had no idea what this blog was going to be up till a week ago.
Do I write it about How to be a better person to your partner? How do you open up about your relationship? 
But then I realised, that this isn't a "Love" blog, but rather a Mental Health one.

Valentine's is the day of love - showing, giving and receiving. 
But as much as you do the above to someone, it's also important to do that to you.

I'm talking about Self Love.

Whenever some of us hear this word, we often associate it with selfishness. The truth is that it's far from that.
Self - Love is about accepting and acknowledging you. Narcissism is about putting yourself above others.

We all get caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily duties and often turn to someone to unwind from stressors -we form a connection with them. And while these connections are truly amazing, along the way, we often lose touch with one of the most important relationships in our lives—our relationship with ourselves. Somewhere along the way, we forget how to find that inner sense of calmity (is that a word?) within us.

Keep in mind: this blog is in no way discouraging you from confiding in others; it’s about reminding you that you can also be that source of support for yourself, regardless of whether you feel like there's no one else to turn to or not.

Because at the end of the day, no one knows you better than you.

Introspect—when was the last time you checked in with yourself? And not the surface-level “How am I feeling?” but really checked in? Ask yourself what’s been draining you, what’s been making you feel whole, what you need more of and what you need to let go?

Self-love isn’t just bubble baths and comfort food (though, tbh they do help sometimes). It’s also setting boundaries, being honest with yourself, and allowing yourself to be human.

Maybe today, instead of stressing over the “love” you do or don’t have from others, take a second to appreciate the love you deserve from yourself.

Give yourself a break. Say no to the thing you don’t actually want to do and yes to the ones you do.
Call it cliché, call it cheesy, but at the end of the day, the longest relationship you’ll ever have is the one with yourself - might as well make it a good one.

So...this Valentine's..choose you too?

Aight, imma dip. Hope this blog served as a much-needed reminder a lot of us had to hear. See y'all next soon and don't forget to share and follow for more content, every second Friday of the month!

Signing off,
Kuhu :)