Let's Talk about Bragging.

 Heilo heilo and welcome backzo!

Aaj ka blog is based on something that I, you, and literally every other person has dealt with; and maybe even endorsed (it's alright - trial and error process ya!)

✨Bragging✨

Now some of us may have done it intentionally; others, unintentionally; and a third category does it so much that you forget that you're doing it in the first place!
It's sort of like lying.
You lie once, you lie a 100 times.

None of us like to speak to a vain boaster, but sometimes, we're too quick to judge. 
So, in today's post, let's break down the science of bragging:

Why do people brag?

Simply put, to mask themselves.
90% of the time, people who brag are in reality, unknowingly, insecure about themselves and so they find a need to validate themselves by putting others down; or raising their level.
More fancily put, braggers monopolize a conversation, paint a distorted picture of their lives, and use good news to justify their inflated sense of self-worth.

Bragging is like a dopamine hit - it feels good.
Moreover, we have role-modelling for doing that through the celebrities whose continued status in the media is dependent on their capacity to brag just a little, hopefully, gracefully. All of that would give us the impression that we might be able to create a better impression in other people's minds if we boast.

Or, of-course, they just do it intentionally- to mess with you, because they enjoy it, to counter your brag, the reasons go on :)

Sharing good news vs. Bragging

Very often these terms are intermixed, which can lead to many relationships breaking.
You share good news with the people you love. People who care about you and people you know for a fact will love and support you no matter what. And these are the same people who YOU support in their victories. It's a symbiotic relationship.

Bragging is when you start bringing up every single tiny accomplishment to every single person - regardless of whether they're close to you or not. See, sharing good news with your environment isn't bad; but when you overdo it and try to prove yourself worthy of something by showing someone else down, that's when it begins to rot. That's bragging.

Sharing good news comes out naturally.
Bragging comes out forcefully and vaingloriously.

Stay tuned for next week's post where I breakdown how to deal with such people; and more importantly, not let their words get to you (trust me, I have some experience in this field haha)
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Signing off,
Kuhu :)