The Constant Comparison Circle

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"Wish I had hair like them."
"How do they manage being the best at EVERYTHING?"
"They're so fit  - look at me: a couch potato"

We've all compared ourselves with the people around us.
We all compare ourselves with the people around us.

We get jealous, begrudged and green with envy.
And sometimes we just smile to not let the world know.

We get insecure. We feel bad.

But what we always forget to accept is the state of the situation.
Our situation - their situation.

Literally no one out there is a 100% happy with their lives.
And, unlike the cliches, maybe we shouldn't be. 

Who said that you have to be happy all the time?
If you're happy all the time then how do you become a better version of yourself?

There will always be someone smarter, richer, more popular, and better-looking than you.
Healthy competition is good.

It's not a bad thing to have people be better than you.
It's a bad thing if you accept that you can never work hard and get better - better for you, not better for the world.
Instead of stewing in feelings of jealousy and inadequacy, think about what you can learn from successful people.

You don't know what someone else is going through;
And someone else doesn't know your whole truth.

The pictures could be edited or they probably weren't.
The grades could have been bought or earned by hard luck.

It's not a facade, it's not a show.
It all lies in your hands - what you want the world to know.

Everyone is jealous of each other.
We are stuck in an unfortunate circle.

Look at yourself in the mirror once and introspect.
Applaud yourself for how far you've come and how far you have left.

This was my attempt at a free-verse article/poem - all thoughts poured from my brain at 2am post a doom-scrolling session.
I'm experimenting with new styles of writing so let me know in the comments what you thought of today's piece.

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Signing off,
Kuhu :)





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