Normalize Crying.

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Crying. It's seen as a sign of weakness. Literally. You shed one tear and bam you have label on yourself-"Weak". I often wonder why? Is it so wrong to express how you're feeling?? Or is it to have a social character of yourself as "strong"? Does it really give you that much pride?

    It's not something new. Its existed for quite some time but now it's time to bring that to a full stop. We need to stop labelling people just for expressing what they are feeling. I wanna explain why Crying is okay.

At times, when we get frustrated over something or are overwhelmed by something or just sad, we tend to burst it out. Shouting or yelling or throwing stuff. Kuch bhi. But at the end what we all resort to is crying in private. Why so? 

This is because we don't want to show people our real feelings. We feel like they're going to "judge" us. We feel minor. And this true I'm not kidding. I've seen SO may people go through this that its just been normalized.

You cry. You cry in private.

Stop that already.

Normalize crying it out. Normalize reveling your sentiments out with the people you love and trust. Normalize not bottling up what you feel just to yourself.

Stop putting a thappa on people crying.

To the real question,

Why is crying okay?

Not only because of its scientific importance but because it makes you healthy. It's a strong quality to cry. What will you get by bottling it up except for extreme stress and anxiety? Crying promotes both emotional as well as physical well being. Your mood instantly changes when you let go of your pain. Besides, it is well known that after a crying session, the best kind of sleep comes.

Crying is a sign of strength. It is a demonstration of a completely comfortable relationship with the yourself. Choosing to cry and feel is a choice in the interest of one's emotional health. Choosing to cry is also choosing not to care about the opinions of others.

In conclusion, Stop holding it in and let it out. Cry it out because it only makes you better. It doesn't make you weak. 

Okay so that was it for today, hope y'all enjoyed it. Drop your thoughts on the topic below in the comments and feel free to give suggestions on what you might topic want me to cover on my next post :) Don't forget to share and subscribe!

Signing off,
Kuhu :)

Comments

  1. AnonymousNovember 20, 2020 at 5:07 PM

    Is there some sort of limit? In the sense, crying is ok, but after a point you get called cry baby when you cry for all little things. Where can we draw the line?

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    1. Damselz-In-SanityNovember 20, 2020 at 11:25 PM

      Well according to me there isn't a specific place where you can draw a "line". Different people have different emotions and take time to overcome. You should ideally make yourself strong to overcome crying over small situations by channelling your emotions in the correct direction by crying or any other method. Being called a "cry baby" is certainly not something we would like getting called but maybe look at why you're being called so.

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  2. AnonymousNovember 21, 2020 at 10:13 AM

    Nice... thanks a lot

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