Bullying-Does It Still Exist?

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 Heyyo! 

Welcome back!

This is a topic I had originally written as a draft for my first post. At that time, it seemed as a very dull and click nahi karne vala topic so I decided not to publish it. Nearly a year later, I was going through my older posts and realised that this is actually a pretty misperceived topic. After witnessing such an event take place right in front of my eyes, I thought, why not write a new version on this topic?

So, here we are :)

I'm gonna try my best to not make this a typical "cliché" post where I just give solutions on how to "stop" it-nope. Both of us know it's not gonna be of much use🤷🏻‍♀️

Without further ado, lets get to it!

A lot of us feel that bullying has reduced over the past few years and only exists among young kids. I actually disagree with this. With several factors being considered, the cases of bullying has actually increased-and not just among kids-rather among teens too. 

People feel that it is non-existent for 2 reasons:

- They haven't observed such an incident before them 

- They are the problem  

Don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming you for being the reason this exists, rather just want to help you open your eyes and show that such kind of stuff still exists and that you may be unintentionally endorsing in it. To combat that, we must first answer the question,  

What exactly IS the difference between teasing and bullying?   

In simple words, teasing is simply making fun of one on a light note and meaning it in a joke-ish way. On the other hand, bullying is teasing on an extreme level to which it can emotionally hurt the other person to great extent and have major repercussions. 

Teasing is often just a spurt of the moment thing which gets laughed off soon but in the case of bullying, it is intentional and something that the receiver may take offence or feel hurt to. Bullying is often characterized with an imbalance of power where the privileged opponent exerts their power mentally and physically to the weaken individual.

That's just the basics. 

The next question we gotta tackle is- Among teens of this age,

Where does this usually take place? 

Number one, which I think 90% of us can agree with is online. Be it purposeful cyber bullying or just plain "jokes" in the form of rumours or anything of that sort-this is a cause which is at its rise on its graph. The creation of fake/gossip accounts and defaming of one for numerous reasons is just a fraction causing this issue.

    Another place where the rise of this is very common is of course, school🤷🏻‍♀️ I have lost count of the number of times I've witnessed both physical, as well as, verbal bulling take place. Not to forget, there's always that one person in your school, who you don't wanna bump heads with because you know ki it's not going to end well with them.

Be it "roasts" or "burns", sometimes people tend to go a little far i.e. cross the line but not realise that and end up hurting the victim tremendously.

And when it's done repeatedly, that's when the the issue gets serious. 


My purpose of this post was not to discuss ways we can reduce it or what we can do to help victims who have suffered through this. Of course, one must definitely help and support a person undergoing through this distress, goes without saying. I will definitely talk about these soon; my main purpose was to bring limelight to the topic that this thing still exists and not just something that is shown on T.V. shows.

Bullying never was, nor is okay. Hurting someone is not worth it🤷🏻‍♀️ So I guess, stop? Don't do it? Like lol what level of satisfaction does it bring you that you have successfully hurt someone's sentiments and potentially caused some deeper issue in them? 

And in case you are one and recognise it, it's never too late to change!

That was it for today's post! Please feel free to drop your experiences in the comments below and don't forget to share and subscribe for more content, every Friday! 

Signing off,

Kuhu :)

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